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  1. Yes, but I'm a 30 y.o. woman-child that has never been in a relationship and is emotionally unavailable, so...

  2. I'm not sure that what you're describing even exists. Most guys in a FWB situation are far from being your friend. I think that would be 10 times harder to find than a relationship, honestly.

  3. I also am not sure I could imagine a relationship. The only problem with this is that finding a guy who wants FWB and respects you on top of that is more difficult than finding a relationship where I'm from.

  4. I was in your position until I was 24, except I had been on one random date when I was 15. Then at 24 I went on my second (and last) date, I made out with a guy. That's it, and I'm almost 30.

  5. Hanging out with friends, having a good time, but Im also heartbroken and I cant get it out of my head, how long does it take to get over unrequited love?

  6. I wonder about this as well. I have to see and hear about this person often. I think I'm going to try CBT for this. Enough is enough.

  7. Kind of lonely. Went to see my parents for lunch yesterday. Today it was just me, cleaning my apartment, cause when I'm depressed it turns into a mess, cause I can't force myself to clean. So there was a lot of work, but I did it. Now my apartment's clean and I'm alone.

  8. I have similar concerns. I have no social life, so that would probably be a concern.

  9. It is difficult. I have my ups and downs. Turning 30 in a couple of months, and that has been the hardest thing. I go between frantically trying to change something and being completely apathetic. The worst (and best) thing for me is that I delude myself with crushes on anyone who pays me any attention.

  10. No, not at all. My mom is very social. My dad is weird, but not like me. He can be very social when he wants to be.

  11. Who are the guys you talk to that drop you for being socially awkward? Are they neurotypical or are they also a bit awkward?

  12. They aren't awkward. Mainly because I never meet other awkward people in real life.

  13. I notice the same thing. Just at work there are at least 8 guys I liked at some point. It's kind of disgusting. Nothing happened with anyone, obviously.

  14. I am working on improving this, but I still do it. At least now I have the self awareness to realise this is due to my loneliness and affection starvation. I know it is just a fleeting crush/attraction, and while a bit of daydreaming is OK, I need to stay grounded in reality.

  15. I relate to this. But it's hard to follow this, when no one ever asks you out. So whenever I hear advice like "if he wanted to, he would", I feel sad, cause clearly no one wants to.

  16. I know what you're going through, it happened to me too on my first job, and come to think about it, it kind of happened again in this job. I would say if at all possible try to focus on the job, and being excellent at your job. Shift your focus away from the social stuff. Be polite and cordial, but that's it.

  17. Because I'm too fucked up to be in any kind of relationship. Even friendships.

  18. This is my experience as well. People say "Just put yourself out there, don't be afraid of rejection etc" and they don't even get it at all. When I do try and connect with people it brings me such tremendous pain to watch me make them leave. I don't know what the point is.

  19. I feel exactly the same, so I'm afraid I can't be much help. This year has been the worst one of my life so far. It is so much worse the older you get. Makes me afraid of the future.

  20. Right? Hugs on their own do absolutely nothing for me.

  21. Turning 30 in a couple of months. It doesn't seem like it's worth the effort. If someone wants to date me they can make it happen. I'm done trying. I just don't care.

  22. Yes. When I was 12 I wrote in my journal that I wouldn't have a boyfriend before 25. Then I didn't end up getting one at 25 either lol

  23. Cancelled on friends cause I'm too depressed to hang out with anyone. I don't think I'll leave my house any time soon.

  24. This sort of reminded me of the show "The Act". If you haven't seen it, maybe you could check it out, I really liked it. My mom is/was overprotective as well, it does damage you.

  25. I have no choice. Thank God I have the option of working from home, otherwise I would've had a breakdown or fifty by now. Even then, it is really hard. The work is fine, it's the socialization that I can't stand. But it does make you learn stuff about yourself. I figured out I can't set boundaries with people at all, I can only be a complete pushover (which I am, 99% of the time) or a bitch who is angry for no reason. So I will be attending assertiveness classes.

  26. Unless you are from certain parts of the world, dyed blonde hair looks ridiculous, the same way that fake tits and swollen lips do. Also, I don't like 'blonde' jokes in the same way that I don't like jokes about blacks, Poles, or Asians. As a blonde person, I would look ridiculous in an afro or a dark wig. I might even get accused of cultural appropriation. That's sort of how I feel about seeing people who have fake blonde hair. I also was the least attractive of my 3 siblings who are not blonde. I don't get why people think it's attractive in the first place. It's only attractive when you add other features. Slapping blonde hair on an ugly person isn't going to make them hot.

  27. People dying their hair blonde is not cultural appropriation. That is ridiculous. Having blonde hair is not a culture.

  28. I think I might be autistic. I face the same social issues regardless of that diagnosis. So...that.

  29. I'm conflicted. I do get you, and I'm 29, so already an old virgin. It is difficult, for sure. However, I don't think having had sex one time would've made anything easier. Maybe it would make your mind relax a bit, where you would realize it doesn't matter.

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