1. Hang in there, Frosta. You are a warrior and pretty soon you're gonna hit your 1337 milestone! Heck yeah! We're here for you. <3

  2. It surely will! You got this! 25 days is an amazing accomplishment; I hope you start feeling better soon. Hang in there. IWNDWYT!

  3. Please understand I'm only speaking from personal experience here, and your mileage may vary, but I have SAD myself and I used to be miserable for almost half the year (I lived in New Hampshire).

  4. This really hit home for me. Thanks for sharing. I’ve spend years trying to block out all bad, but I’m finally willing to work through it. Set up my first therapist appointment and am genuinely looking forward to it. I will not drink with you today.

  5. That's amazing!! To me, it rarely feels like strength or personal fortitude when I embark on these things, even though I later realize it was. To me it felt like I was experiencing instead a lot of vulnerability and insecurity.

  6. I had to learn there was a difference between healing and numbing to begin with, I didn't even have a clue. I spent so much of my life making any bad situation so much worse because of that ignorance. It was just close eyes until I forgot about it. Similar to you, when I did learn the difference and how to heal properly was when sobriety stuck for me. Life wasn't so intolerable when things didn't go my way anymore. I could roll with the punches much better. What you're describing is spot on,and can potentially help a lot of people.

  7. Hey Bekklor. I have no idea why you got downvoted but I appreciate your comment. 254 days is an amazing accomplishment, you're clearly doing something right!

  8. "I think I need to focus on high quality friendships that don’t feel like such a drain on me."

  9. Anger is one of the final emotions with which I need to contend. I spent a lot of time working on confronting my grief. I didn't think I could open those floodgates and survive the fallout, but I was beautifully wrong, and I know the same can be true for my anger. I know my fear of it is irrational and I must engage if I ever hope to be compassionate and fair to myself and the people I impact.

  10. I like your attitude, OP. Reminds me of when I'm dead set on something. You are in the eye of the storm, keep going!

  11. I worked somewhere that had a bar on every floor, and people would literally push a drink into my hand at 5 o'clock. Finance people would "joke" with sentiments like, "Come on, it's mandatory!"

  12. I think the real sentiment here is "I'm confused/afraid/intimidated by anyone that doesn't drink." How can we possibly confront this raw reality every day, not numbing it with chemicals? What kind of freaks are we? Strong as heck ones, that's what. Right on.


  14. Thanks very much for sharing this. I think this information is going to save me a lot of unintentional embarrassment as an addict with a primary substance issue, who is now dealing with a variety of other substance challenges/influences and seeking broader forms of support.

  15. I have been through something very similar. I suffered 5 years of excruciating 24/7 chronic stomach pain. By the end of year 3 I wanted to kill myself. It wasn't until I lost over 50lbs from physically being unable to eat (which took over 2 years, I'm still anorexic today as a result) that the doctors would even begin to listen, and even then they wouldn't prescribe me anything for the pain.

  16. And I also experienced excruciating pain with the IUD and no one wanted to take it out again, because even though I'd been bedridden for two weeks straight they said the pain was "normal" and "should subside soon". It hadn't subsided the least bit in two weeks. I had a fulltime job, I couldn't afford to miss any more of it. I demanded they take it out, and after they finally realized I was not backing down they conceded. It's ridiculous sometimes what we have to do to be taken seriously.

  17. thank you so much for your comments, i’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with all this. i’ve heard a lot of bad things about the IUD, it’s so sad that something meant to help can be so painful

  18. It's crazy what kind of side effects are deemed acceptable for women, but aren't approved for men (see the reasons the recent male hormone birth control was nixed).

  19. I have encountered the same jerks time and again. It is absolutely rational to be conservative with your nudes, and I wouldn't blame any woman for not wanting to share them at all. It's a risky bid, and even if you trust the person you're sharing them with, I've found that their opinion of you can turn in the future, and with their opinion so too do their morals seem to become more flexible. Someone I had previously trusted very much posted compromising photos of me online in the name of "justice" and "revenge" (because I got too drunk at a party and he didn't like it).

  20. Hi, bigdogmirra. I definitely relate to your post. I also had and sometimes continue to have mental health struggles even though I have a lot of sobriety behind me. And during my first time quitting, I did worry I wasn't as "fun" anymore, but I've since put that worry behind me, as I saw the really kind and loved person I could be sober.

  21. Hi girlreachingout24, I think you're right in that I've sort of got to find other ways to manage my stress and anxiety with alcohol. I know for sure that quitting alcohol has helped A LOT. However there is obviously still some underlying issues that need to be resolved and was masking with alcohol.

  22. Honestly, I think that's true for many of us. It's a very easy trap to fall into when I have extreme emotions- even positive ones, sometimes, I used to want to curb with alcohol. But especially shame or fear. I think I was a little afraid of my emotions in general. But especially when things get bad, the alcohol stops helping, and those scary emotions come back stronger than ever like a building wave.

  23. I find the old adage of Delay and Distract works pretty well on my cravings. I'm so glad you're back and making this post, Took2mush!

  24. You did it! You kicked that craving's ass! Really proud of you, hope you'll continue to share with us on your journey. Congrats on telling Carl the "Craving" to butt out ;D IWNDWYT

  25. I think you're starting off right with structure and a sponsor. The doctors and therapists keep telling me community and support increases our chances.

  26. Please keep checking in and letting us know how you're doing, safealias! It's not an easy journey but it's worth every step. I promise it does get easier and it does get better.

  27. This is exactly what I need to hear. Thank you so much, truly.

  28. Should you start taking poison again because it was so easy to stop taking it? I think that's the question. I can't speak for you, obviously, but for myself I would say "No."

  29. No judgement, OP, I've also started again and hid it and been the liar. I'm really glad you're back here now being a honest-er though.

  30. I love and relate to your story, Alex. Sobriety also translated to a lot of career improvement for me. Honestly, I never imagined I'd be where I am now, and I'm extremely grateful (even my stubborn father is proud wtf).

  31. I'm sorry, OP, but really glad you're getting back up and recommitting to your sobriety! I can second your therapist's advice; when I need reminders why I quit I go through my old posts. Sometimes I read about my misery, sometimes I reunite with my old clarity. But mostly it reminds me that I've been working at this a long time and suffered a lot over it, so it must be very important to me (a thing my brain likes to dismiss very quickly). In fact, at this point I'd say it's the most important thing in my life. I've never tried so hard at anything, and I am a person who tries a lot.

  32. I really liked Living Sober and I think a lot of people have tried The Easy Way to Stop Drinking (which I believe focuses on how one views alcohol) but I don't know how well it worked for them.

  33. I think that vision of alcoholics as dirty, useless, lazy, or unproductive people held me and others like me back from contemplating serious sobriety for a long time.

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