Stop trying to take my CPTSD diagnosis away from me.

  1. I couldn't agree more with you. I've seen this trend too, and it's brought me to tears a few times, and also enraged me. I've clicked on articles because they were recommended by people I respect(some with CPTSD themselves), and read how insane the cult of people with (C)PTSD is. It's really all the same stuff I've personally heard all my life – you're trying to be a special snowflake and you're limiting yourself, you're making your whole identity about this one thing. When really, I felt all those things you describe. There are words for what I'm going through, and tools, there's a community.

  2. The rage is so real! A lot of these types of anti-label comments literally sound like my crappy mother, who says shit like "oh, you just want a diagnosis for attention!" and "labels are sooo limiting, you're normal, stop trying to categorize yourself!" when in reality she does not want to face the fact that I'm traumatized as all hell and need professional help to handle it. It's just so so invalidating, and I'm sorry you've encountered this stuff too.

  3. Yes, exactly, labels help us accept reality and see things for how they are—they're important language, not something to be erased if we want to use them, you know? Sorry you had that experience. It's tough.

  4. I've even had a therapist try to tell me this. I do clinical mental health and told a therapist I wanted to sort out my trauma to be better for my clients and help them through theirs and she said 'don't internalize what you learned in school' like no??? I'm finding a way to name and explain what happened to me in my childhood tf? Needless to say I did not follow through with her

  5. Oh god, yeah, I've had a couple therapists try this with me! They're against labels, which... I guess they're trying to be modern and non-stigmatizing, but all it does for me is make me feel invalidated and like I'm making everything up. Luckily the therapist I have now is much more open-minded to labels if I want to use them, but jeez. I'm consistently surprised how common this is, ugh.

  6. Completely agree! I also have ADHD, probably because of my CPTSD (it's common with freeze types). When I was first diagnosed, well into adulthood (nearly a senior), one of my siblings responded with, "Everyone has ADD these days."

  7. I’m curious what you mean by ADHD being common w/“freeze types”. Do you mean people w/CPTSD who tend to respond by freezing (vs fight/flight response) also tend to have ADHD? Thanks in advance :)

  8. I'm curious about this aswell, I have ADHD (diagnosed as a young child) and CPTSD. I've never thought of the two as related before

  9. Same! I was told that I was lazy and selfish so often growing up that having a diagnosis was a welcome relief. I wasn't crazy or making stuff up in my head. It gave me permission to treat myself with kindness and patience and learn to understand myself. Like you said, I thought this was just another way that I was fundamentally flawed. I felt the same way when I researched ADHD. I don't have a diagnosis, but I also don't have the money right now.

  10. It’s kinda like with the LGBTQIA+ community. It’s true that because you are something, doesn’t mean you have to label as such. However for a lot of us, we find comfort and security in the labels.

  11. Yeah, that's a great comparison. I'm also queer, and it always makes me furious when people try to tell me not to label myself—like, labels help me, both in my sense of identity as a queer person and my sense of how I can manage my trauma and CPTSD. No need to take them away, thanks!

  12. i've found this to be true for me too as well. i'm in both communities (trans and mental health) and for some strange reason, people just love to stick their noses into destroying and invalidating our diagnoses, pride, and recovery when it has nothing to do with them.

  13. i feel the same way. I'm just so tired of people sticking their noses into things that don't concern them in the least. My pain and diagnosis have nothing to do with them.

  14. It's exhausting, yeah. It really has nothing to do with them so idk why they have such strong opinions. Sorry you've encountered this stuff too.

  15. My own therapist refuses to acknowledge that I have CPTSD, and acts like I'm doing something wrong when I say out loud that I have it.

  16. Damn, I'm sorry that they do that. I've had past therapists do the same thing, and it's so so invalidating and painful. Sometimes telling them that has helped, other times it has just fallen on deaf ears and they keep doing it, which sucks :/

  17. It does feel like they've gone too far the other way, in trying to consider everyone as individuals they've failed to recognise that individuals might want a diagnosis. Some people do well with it, some don't, and both are okay.

  18. When I researched cptsd, I had a wave of relief wash over me. Grasping the complexity of stacked symptoms (hyperactivity, anxiety, avoidance, depression, disassociation) made me realize that just like my brain couldn't process the complexity or depth of trauma, it had previously not been able to identify more than one or two symptoms occurring at once.

  19. Sounds like you're reading stuff written by people who have never encountered a real actual problem in their lives.

  20. Hmm, I never thought about differentiating diagnoses from labels, though I guess there are probably differences. Do you mind sharing your thoughts on that a bit more? No worries if not, just not sure I understand and I'd like to.

  21. Diagnoses are definitely used as harmful labels, especially for people who don't fit the mold. So there's overlap. Of course that fact doesn't mean that diagnoses can't also be genuine and useful medical tools.

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