Likely nothing that could be done if she had access. If he was hacked, or could prove a card was stolen then maybe. If she knew his password or was ever given permission to use his cards then not much can be done. I know from experience.
I mean...a judge may award something, but it's going to probably cost more than that to file the case itself. The judge is also going to ask wtf they were thinking giving a girlfriend access to their account.
Call police non emergency for theft, freeze your credit score, call banks fraud department. Drop a world of fraud, identity theft, and other pain on her.
No I didn’t have a joint account. My bank is currently working investigating which may or may not lead to a felony charge. Either way I just want this behind me. They’ll be refunding it but the amount of paperwork I had to do was mentally exhausting.
To clarify a few things. I gave her my laptop password once which had my PayPal and everyday chase account. Didn’t think she’d remember such a complex password but I underestimated her clearly. She send herself Multiple E checks but my account only had the money I use for the week so that’s how I ended up on the negatives. My savings was spare since I keep that in a different bank. Spoke to PayPal and chase so I believe they may contact the police and credit my account until further investigations. She tried to access it again but failed. I since then cut her off and focused on myself and my mental health. Grill me in the comments.
I thought you can only use one phone number per PayPal account, I could be mistaken but I thought I ran into that problem when I tried to change mine. Either way don’t let her pity party her way into getting into any PayPal, even if it is hers karmas a bitch
PayPal and Chase will not go to the police for you. If it’s a known acquaintance the will complete their fraud investigation and hold you responsible unless you can show them a police report. I advise you to go down to you local police station and file a report just so you have this available. When they tell you you are responsible, show them the police report. This may change the outcome of there investigation. Source: I work in Fraud & Disputes for a very large bank.
Have her arrested for wire fraud and various other fraud crimes. This is a felony, but only if you don't chicken out and follow through like she would with you. Do it for Jonny Depp if nothing else
Dude, consider yourself lucky. My ex threw a bottle of her own urine in my VW bus while I was at a party. & I didn't even break up with her, she dumped me.
She only had my laptops password which she then used to get into my PayPal and send herself Echecks. She also broke my phone so I had no way of knowing this was happening let alone a way to stop it.
If you didn’t call the police and report a theft with all her information you are a fool. Don’t protect assholes even if you loved them once upon a time.
You are playing music too loud: right to jail, right away. Driving too fast: jail. Slow: jail. You are charging too high prices for sweaters, glasses: you right to jail. You undercook fish? Believe it or not, jail. You overcook chicken, also jail. Undercook, overcook. You make an appointment with the dentist and you don’t show up, believe it or not, jail, right away. We have the best patients in the world because of jail.
My girlfriend dumped me 3 weeks ago. And she did the same. Charged $700 of Sephora and $250 of restaurants to my CC that she still had, refuses to pay back a $1150 loan, kept 2 of my Louis Vuitton bags that I left at her place and suckered me into buying her a pair of Louboutins and a Burberry coat the day before she dumped me.
Man, paypal is trash for dealing with illegal activity. I hope you call the cops directly and press charges. Best of luck, hope you get your money back and then some!
Stealing wasn't the only thing she did, she exploited his password to his laptop, stole possibly >$1000, and broke his phone. Several crimes he should not hesitate to report.
Your mistake was giving her any personal info like that without actually getting married or having another legal binding contract to take appropriate actions. Your best bet now is a civil suit, but likely the courtroom costs outweigh what you lost and you’ll only get a fraction back, but then again the courts can’t force her to pay you a damn thing.
Believe it or not, I had a business checking account with Bank of America. I put my ex wife as an employee on the account (not an authorized signatory). She literally only had a debit card to use for purchase but no ATM or teller withdrawals. During the end of our relationship she got mad at me and somehow walked into a branch and withdraw a few thousand from the teller. When I confronted the branch manager, he indirectly said they fucked up but wouldn’t be able to return the money since I knew the person who took it and that it had to be a civil matter. Let’s just say Bank of America had a pretty quick change of heart when the OCC came into the matter.
Why would give a girlfriend access to anything remotely close to financial items/accounts? A wife i can understand but a girlfriend? Not even a fiance?
Why does your GF have access to your money and accounts? You are not married. That was your first mistake. This has now become a learning moment for you.
ahh yes, being a bitch for *checks notes* not getting into a 2 year legal battle over $2000 and sacrificing mental health for it while *gestures broadly at everything* else going on.
I have learned through a failed marriage that finances will always be separate for me. You want me to buy something for you or I need you to run to the store? Okay- heres some cash. Aside from that you do not need access to my bank account, credit card or any other avenue of finance!
I didn't even know you could overdraw your PayPal. That sucks. I'm sorry to see that happened. Hopefully you have some legal recourse to get your money back.
You need to call the police ASAP and report her. If you don’t you are doing a disservice to all the future men that she will steal from and do illegal shit too because she thinks she can get away with it. Actions have consequences And it’s better for her to learn that over something like this rather than her ending up on Reddit because she ran over a different boyfriend or something because no one ever held her accountable
Everyone talking about a lawsuit, if Op Is in the US it's literally not worth hiring a lawyer and going to all the court dates. The lawyer fees plus missed work would end up costing you more. Cost me $5,000 to hire a lawyer that didn't even represent me at trial...
Why the fuck were you sharing finances with just a girlfriend? If you have a wife it’s fine if you open a joint account for just shared expenses and leave your other money in you private accounts. Why in the world did you give her you PayPal? That shits on you.
Man. I hope you are able to crawl out of that one. My ex wife stole 18k out of all the joint accounts the day after she said she wanted an amicable divorce. I had been saving up my entire adult life and one day it was just gone. As long as you had separate accounts, she can be held liable. If it was joint, the best you can hope for is 50% back and often times, the judge will state no wrongdoing as it was joint property.
Lmao it's crazy how women live in this double standards and think it's OK to do this. I've seen several cars where the ex girlfriend would key cars, break windows, take money etc.. and it's almost NEVER an ex boyfriend that does this kind of stuff. Men get 66% harsher sentences when it comes to getting punished so that probably makes sense.
Whoever told you having a joint account with your girlfriend or giving her access to your bank account is a good idea is a moron. Only married people do this.
that is why accounts are ALWAYS personal, not shared. The sharing is done on eachothers will not by having the account details and just extracting when you want.
Independently of if it is legal or not, you have well done breaking up with her. A person who isn’t enough mature to hold a rupture (which is not as dramatic as she thinks) doesn’t deserve being with you. That’s my POV.
oh man, i had a customer figure out i had lost my shipping receipt and forced a refund through paypal, keeping the 500 dollars worth of vintage game hardware and the 350 he'd paid for it. it's been rough, i still don't have a usable paypal
I had an ex that went in to my ps plus account deleted all my progress and changed the pw and changed security to a two factor authentication that I could not get to she put it to her # he email was a backup to get in, it was about 700 in games all my progress for years, they would not press charges but I still had a ton of guns that were given to us by a in law I sold them all until I bought enough loot boxes and games to get my account like it was took thousands to do it, then when she called the cops she couldn't provide a receipt so they were now my guns, she stole my fake guns I sold her real guns then bought fake guns again, I also kept a few we had more than anyone should ever have
I had an ex that stole like 3k from me. I was an alcoholic. ( I Mean technically I still am) but I was making pretty good money at the time. So I didn't notice this money missing. The fucking FBI calls me, and asks why packages are being sent to not my address. So I recognize the address as my exes place. I (against their orders) call her up and ask wtf is going on? Claimed not to know anything. Until I mentioned the fucking FBI called me! Then she spills, well we broke up right after Christmas. You had put your debit card in my Amazon account so we could buy your family gifts. Which was true. But woman your telling me that you bought 3k worth of stuff, and had 'no idea' it wasn't coming out of your account? And seriously I paid for this woman to go to school. Paid our rent. Just so disrespectful
Honestly, I sincerely hope you proceed legally, that is unacceptable
And a felony!
Assuming her name isn't on the account
Likely nothing that could be done if she had access. If he was hacked, or could prove a card was stolen then maybe. If she knew his password or was ever given permission to use his cards then not much can be done. I know from experience.
I mean...a judge may award something, but it's going to probably cost more than that to file the case itself. The judge is also going to ask wtf they were thinking giving a girlfriend access to their account.
Call police non emergency for theft, freeze your credit score, call banks fraud department. Drop a world of fraud, identity theft, and other pain on her.
Exactly. Teach her or she'll pull the same shit to others.
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Oooh I smell some criminal charges and a civil suit.
In many places that kind of theft is criminal, not civil. The Ex may be looking at a felony.
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computer fraud and abuse
Doubt it, they posted about the same thing a month ago. They'll let it keep happening.
Shit on her bed
So that’s what the Rock is cooking!
Did you have a joint account? If not, time for a call to the police.
No I didn’t have a joint account. My bank is currently working investigating which may or may not lead to a felony charge. Either way I just want this behind me. They’ll be refunding it but the amount of paperwork I had to do was mentally exhausting.
To clarify a few things. I gave her my laptop password once which had my PayPal and everyday chase account. Didn’t think she’d remember such a complex password but I underestimated her clearly. She send herself Multiple E checks but my account only had the money I use for the week so that’s how I ended up on the negatives. My savings was spare since I keep that in a different bank. Spoke to PayPal and chase so I believe they may contact the police and credit my account until further investigations. She tried to access it again but failed. I since then cut her off and focused on myself and my mental health. Grill me in the comments.
She remembered the password because she used it all the time.
Dodged a bullet, good for you! Don’t go back!
was it possible to charge back?
dont wait for the bank to contact police do it yourself now to make sure that it both gets done and has all the relevant information
How did she access your Chase and PayPal accounts? Do you use the same laptop password for those?
remind me when you sue her and get your money back
I thought you can only use one phone number per PayPal account, I could be mistaken but I thought I ran into that problem when I tried to change mine. Either way don’t let her pity party her way into getting into any PayPal, even if it is hers karmas a bitch
PayPal and Chase will not go to the police for you. If it’s a known acquaintance the will complete their fraud investigation and hold you responsible unless you can show them a police report. I advise you to go down to you local police station and file a report just so you have this available. When they tell you you are responsible, show them the police report. This may change the outcome of there investigation. Source: I work in Fraud & Disputes for a very large bank.
I'd have told her that she won't need a phone where she's going. They'll let her use one when they say so.
Wtf? The fact that she has the nerve to ask you, and the fact that you bother answering her ‘nicely’ is incredible to me
Have her arrested for wire fraud and various other fraud crimes. This is a felony, but only if you don't chicken out and follow through like she would with you. Do it for Jonny Depp if nothing else
Bro been there. She’s nuts. Do yourself a favor right now. Criminal charges and restraining order. Like asap. May seem extreme but will save your ass
That was 1000% for your PayPal lol your still being too nice, just don't respond next time. Hope your doing okay.
Dude, consider yourself lucky. My ex threw a bottle of her own urine in my VW bus while I was at a party. & I didn't even break up with her, she dumped me.
That edit. Good for you!
Why did you choose her to begin with?
Look on the bright side. $1,400 to get that type of crazy out of your life for good is a bargain. 👍
Good on you dude. If she's struggling so bad she can make a new PayPal.
I'd tell the dad that she pulled this demand all the money back, also let him know she's probably going to prison for this
What kind of fucking simp let's somebody steal their money and not go straight to the police?
Ah yes mildlyinfuriating
Mildly is an understatement
Grand theft? (Most places over $1000.00)
I've counted 2 felonies so far, grand theft and unauthorized computer access. I'm sure there's more.
Felony if he calls the cops. Judging by comments OP made ex is going to get away with it and not learn a thing.
just mild huh?
Always keep finances separate unless you're married. In which case you can also keep your finances separate.
She only had my laptops password which she then used to get into my PayPal and send herself Echecks. She also broke my phone so I had no way of knowing this was happening let alone a way to stop it.
Married: keep savings and such separate , checking should be joint.
My finance and I don't have joint accounts and won't.
I have never seen a reason to combine finances. It just opens the door for arguments I feel like.
Teehee. Only married people will understand.
If you didn’t call the police and report a theft with all her information you are a fool. Don’t protect assholes even if you loved them once upon a time.
Had an ex that swore she loved me but when I caught her cheating and I dropped her, she tried to kill me.
That’s grand theft. I would file charges.
This is a felony. Crime it up and get her fined. She has no right to drain your accounts and legally she is fucked.
How does everyone understand what's going on in this photo? Is there a second photo I'm missing? All I'm seeing are two accounts in the red.
Right to jail.
You are playing music too loud: right to jail, right away. Driving too fast: jail. Slow: jail. You are charging too high prices for sweaters, glasses: you right to jail. You undercook fish? Believe it or not, jail. You overcook chicken, also jail. Undercook, overcook. You make an appointment with the dentist and you don’t show up, believe it or not, jail, right away. We have the best patients in the world because of jail.
My girlfriend dumped me 3 weeks ago. And she did the same. Charged $700 of Sephora and $250 of restaurants to my CC that she still had, refuses to pay back a $1150 loan, kept 2 of my Louis Vuitton bags that I left at her place and suckered me into buying her a pair of Louboutins and a Burberry coat the day before she dumped me.
Well take this as a lesson.
Yep, i got my ex an iPhone the day before she broke it off with me because hers was broken, these bitches only be in it for free shit.
Man, paypal is trash for dealing with illegal activity. I hope you call the cops directly and press charges. Best of luck, hope you get your money back and then some!
Yup my bf stole mine 5 years ago and PayPal to this day calls me, texts me, emails me and mails me about it. They don’t believe in fraud lmao 😂
My ex stole $2400 in cash from me when we broke up. Then she had the ovaries to ask for my XBox.
"had the ovaries" first time i hear that, i love it
Dude this is not just mildly infuriating. It is a crime. Call the police.
Grand theft and identity fraud. Double felony
Congratulations, she committed a felony. Get the police involved and press charges. Do not back down, send her ass to jail.
Hopefully she won't shit in your bed as well..
Hit you with that amber turd experience.
Just tell her to give it back or you will press charges
Stealing wasn't the only thing she did, she exploited his password to his laptop, stole possibly >$1000, and broke his phone. Several crimes he should not hesitate to report.
In my state, theft over $1,000 is an E felony. Go up to your police station and make a statement.
Call the cops. That’s theft.
thats straight up stealing, report it to the cops
Why are people like this, why cant they just be adults about break ups
Felony all day. Rek that nerd.
Your mistake was giving her any personal info like that without actually getting married or having another legal binding contract to take appropriate actions. Your best bet now is a civil suit, but likely the courtroom costs outweigh what you lost and you’ll only get a fraction back, but then again the courts can’t force her to pay you a damn thing.
Bruh even my wife can’t access to my bank account how did you let your girlfriend use your account? Did she steal your bank card or something ?
Believe it or not, I had a business checking account with Bank of America. I put my ex wife as an employee on the account (not an authorized signatory). She literally only had a debit card to use for purchase but no ATM or teller withdrawals. During the end of our relationship she got mad at me and somehow walked into a branch and withdraw a few thousand from the teller. When I confronted the branch manager, he indirectly said they fucked up but wouldn’t be able to return the money since I knew the person who took it and that it had to be a civil matter. Let’s just say Bank of America had a pretty quick change of heart when the OCC came into the matter.
That’s Grand Theft, and it’s a HEFTY criminal case.
I hope you press charges buddy
That's literally theft, I'd press charges
I think this is a little more than mildly infuriating
Remember, just because you're in bed with them physically, does not mean you should be in bed with them financially.
Why would give a girlfriend access to anything remotely close to financial items/accounts? A wife i can understand but a girlfriend? Not even a fiance?
Why does your GF have access to your money and accounts? You are not married. That was your first mistake. This has now become a learning moment for you.
24 days ago you posted your girlfriend did the same thing with $800 on
Uh i thing this the same thing a month later.
If you do not pursue legal recourse you are a BITCH
ahh yes, being a bitch for *checks notes* not getting into a 2 year legal battle over $2000 and sacrificing mental health for it while *gestures broadly at everything* else going on.
What'd your ex do? Hire a hitman?
Cheap hitman 😂 thats why hes still posting
In before the rape accusations.
You people need to stop giving your non-married partners access to your finances.
I don't mean to be "that guy" ... but why did someone you're not married to have that kind of access to your financials?
She should have never had access in the first place. This is on you bud
Lowkey ur fault never give ur bank information
Oh man
Police. Don't let this go.
Lol isn’t this a CFAA felony? Way, way worse than stealing 2k
I have learned through a failed marriage that finances will always be separate for me. You want me to buy something for you or I need you to run to the store? Okay- heres some cash. Aside from that you do not need access to my bank account, credit card or any other avenue of finance!
Mildly?
Gotta be illegal
I didn't even know you could overdraw your PayPal. That sucks. I'm sorry to see that happened. Hopefully you have some legal recourse to get your money back.
Yea bud you might want to ask her to return it , if it’s a no, then it may have to be escalated. Not cool at fucking all
Why share financial info with a GF? I mean wife, i get, but a gf?
Oooooh I smell somebody getting charged for theft
Just chalk it up as a loss and move on man. It'll come back on her
If that wasn’t authorized she probably just committed wire fraud. Among other things.
I would sue her bitch ass
Fuck that bitch
Why does your 3x have access to your accounts
You need to call the police ASAP and report her. If you don’t you are doing a disservice to all the future men that she will steal from and do illegal shit too because she thinks she can get away with it. Actions have consequences And it’s better for her to learn that over something like this rather than her ending up on Reddit because she ran over a different boyfriend or something because no one ever held her accountable
Everyone talking about a lawsuit, if Op Is in the US it's literally not worth hiring a lawyer and going to all the court dates. The lawyer fees plus missed work would end up costing you more. Cost me $5,000 to hire a lawyer that didn't even represent me at trial...
Better man up and press charges. Ain’t no woman messing with my money honey.
"Mildly infuriating" you must have the patience of a saint
Brother, that's a fucking felony. Have fun.
Why the fuck were you sharing finances with just a girlfriend? If you have a wife it’s fine if you open a joint account for just shared expenses and leave your other money in you private accounts. Why in the world did you give her you PayPal? That shits on you.
And this is why I won't give anybody my banking info until it's a stable relationship
If you got her social let’s get active
Her name on ur accounts?
That’s theft. File police report and press charges.
Contact PayPal and dispute the charge.
go get the bag man
Call the police
Illegal. This is also why even as married, we have separate accounts.
Don’t let partners in like that , hide shit from people
I mean that's /kinda/ your fault for giving her access to your finances, assuming she didn't just steal your card/password.
In many states anything over 1k is a felony. Don't wuss out and show her any mercy. she WILL do it to other.
She had access to your account.. she's a gf not your wife. Why would she have access?
Seems illegal
Ain’t that a felony?
Ha you only had to pay 2,000. Lucky
your ex is a bad word (i’m scared i might get banned from reddit again)
Man. I hope you are able to crawl out of that one. My ex wife stole 18k out of all the joint accounts the day after she said she wanted an amicable divorce. I had been saving up my entire adult life and one day it was just gone. As long as you had separate accounts, she can be held liable. If it was joint, the best you can hope for is 50% back and often times, the judge will state no wrongdoing as it was joint property.
You fool! Trusting another human
Lmao it's crazy how women live in this double standards and think it's OK to do this. I've seen several cars where the ex girlfriend would key cars, break windows, take money etc.. and it's almost NEVER an ex boyfriend that does this kind of stuff. Men get 66% harsher sentences when it comes to getting punished so that probably makes sense.
Why would ever give her acces to your PayPal account?
pretty sure thats a felony hope you reported this
Whoever told you having a joint account with your girlfriend or giving her access to your bank account is a good idea is a moron. Only married people do this.
"mildly" infuriating
that is why accounts are ALWAYS personal, not shared. The sharing is done on eachothers will not by having the account details and just extracting when you want.
Idk how paypal works but why did she have access to your paypal account?
Imagine giving your girlfriend your banking information. Why?
Probably illegal.
What a cuck why would you put your gf on your account lol
That's fucked up. I would pursue legal charges against her.
Idc if you love her still ducking sue that one
Old neighbor I had smashed in my front porch door window with a bike that was outside.
This is why you don't share financial info with someone you aren't married to. Learn from this and throw the book at her.
Bitches man fucking crazy all of
Independently of if it is legal or not, you have well done breaking up with her. A person who isn’t enough mature to hold a rupture (which is not as dramatic as she thinks) doesn’t deserve being with you. That’s my POV.
And guess who gets to go to jail for thieft and ID thieft
Hopefully it’s not a joint account. Otherwise it’s her money too.
And why I would never give ANYONE access to my accounts
How can you have a negative PayPal balance?
Call the police for theft, get that money back. This actually pisses me off.
Dont do joint accounts
Man. Probably a good thing you cut that one off.
Omg why were you sharing your finances with a girl friend ?
He wasn't, she knew a password he used and managed to get into his PayPal.
she did it last month too:
This is illegal for fuck's sake quit whining to reddit and fucking do something about it
Loooool, enjoy your time smugly giggling at her stupidity in court 😂🤣
Who gives there gf the keys to the bank account like that??
Why on earth would you give someone who isn't your wife access to your accounts? That's the infuriating part; that you saw this as a good idea.
Why would a gf have access to your account 🤦🏾♂️ ur own fault!
If you haven't taken legal action yet and you're posting here on reddit instead you are pretty damn dull
Why did this bitch have access to your finances?
Go blow through her friends.
But most importantly Redditors, what have we all learned from this?
Cost me a bit over a grand to recognize I couldn’t afford to close my eyes while my heart was open. 😞
oh man, i had a customer figure out i had lost my shipping receipt and forced a refund through paypal, keeping the 500 dollars worth of vintage game hardware and the 350 he'd paid for it. it's been rough, i still don't have a usable paypal
There's got to be more too it.
I had an ex that went in to my ps plus account deleted all my progress and changed the pw and changed security to a two factor authentication that I could not get to she put it to her # he email was a backup to get in, it was about 700 in games all my progress for years, they would not press charges but I still had a ton of guns that were given to us by a in law I sold them all until I bought enough loot boxes and games to get my account like it was took thousands to do it, then when she called the cops she couldn't provide a receipt so they were now my guns, she stole my fake guns I sold her real guns then bought fake guns again, I also kept a few we had more than anyone should ever have
Wire fraud
I had an ex that stole like 3k from me. I was an alcoholic. ( I Mean technically I still am) but I was making pretty good money at the time. So I didn't notice this money missing. The fucking FBI calls me, and asks why packages are being sent to not my address. So I recognize the address as my exes place. I (against their orders) call her up and ask wtf is going on? Claimed not to know anything. Until I mentioned the fucking FBI called me! Then she spills, well we broke up right after Christmas. You had put your debit card in my Amazon account so we could buy your family gifts. Which was true. But woman your telling me that you bought 3k worth of stuff, and had 'no idea' it wasn't coming out of your account? And seriously I paid for this woman to go to school. Paid our rent. Just so disrespectful
Woman moment
if it's not a joint account, take legal action
What a bitch. It would be a shame if you posted her name.... address.... and phone number....
You only had $1,300...?
youre looking at his current funds which is negative 1300, we have no idea how much money he actually had
What's the whole story on the breakup?
How is that relevant?
$500 to make her go away? Not a bad deal lol
You are dumb for giving a broke bitch your bank deets
Explained in another that she remembered his computer password from a couple months ago. Trust me it’s not that he gave her the account info.
How dare you not give your money willingly to her when you broke up with her. Women deserve a stipend when a cis male breaks up with them.
No context here. The OP could owe her 10 x this.
Be glad this is all she did. She sounds nutso
Oh so you have evidence of her crime? Nice
Stealing is illegal
Can you press charges for this? My ex did the same thing but I don’t have proof.