Making yourself enjoy/love the act of writing itself.

  1. Yeah, I've never got those who say they hate the writing part of writing and love having written instead. I really do genuinely love the act of writing, being able to choose which words to use, figuring out how to say something and get a message across, bringing to life a scene that has solely come out of my head. Writers should really think about whether they do want to write even if they never get published or earn money from it. I think answering that question will make the act of writing much more pleasurable, and in an ironic way probably increase your chance of being published.

  2. I've written more than a million words of published fiction and another million that'll never see the light of day. Most of those 2+ million words came easily and were enjoyable to write, but unpleasant life circumstances, looming deadlines, reader/market expectations, imposter syndrome, and a thousand other things can make writing feel impossible at times.

  3. I think this is great advice. I've had some big ups and downs with writing over the years, and have just recovered from a pretty bad slump myself. Cognitive reframing has been one of my biggest assets in going from struggling to write anything week after week, to knocking out a 140k word draft in three months while enjoying the process in a way I haven't for a couple years now.

  4. Years ago I found that if I left off in the middle of a paragraph I wouldn't be able to stop thinking about writing until I got to a "stopping point". Later I learned that things left unfinished are more memorable and you'll feel more motivated to return to what you were working on. (Paraphrasing badly here)

  5. For me, the more i learn about the mechanism of the psychological tricks the more potent it becomes for me. Placebo or not, whatever gets me to flow with the mind and not it being against me, the better it is. When i finish a chapter, starting a new one right after feels daunting so I stop too.

  6. It's a bit more complicated. Things can happen that interfere with your enjoyment. Like when you start taking the hobby more seriously and put higher expectations on yourself. Deadlines. You can forget that you used to enjoy it.

  7. Actually yes, I am of the belief that you discover your passion after say 50 hours of doing something. I found out I want to make career in writing after all. The message of my post is that doing it only for the money reward can lead to making writing seem a chore. It is the same with physical exercise. You know its good for you, but if you tell yourself you hate doing then you will most likely not. People don't always do what they like for various mental reasons, i know this on myself. This conditioning only makes the process easier and pleasurable.

  8. I'm glad that's working out for you. I've heard of similar ways to trick your brain into producing dopamine, and training yourself into routines with habit stacking. I already love writing. It's peaceful reflective alone time where I get to express myself and go on adventures. I wonder why more people don't like it. People that complained about creative writing assignments confused me.

  9. Yeah, the conflict here. I talked to my therapist about this. I said I love writing, in concept, but I also *want* to make it a profession. He said I had to be authentic and not worry about that.

  10. I don't see the harm if you go for it honestly. Who wouldn't want to feel good after. People dont say anything if you think bad thoughts during the work. The worst scenario maybe you'll stop with the negative thoughts.

  11. I would advise not lying to oneself. What is proposed is altering one's own value-system by sheer will. I shall not say it cannot be done, but I suspect it will not be easy to maintain. Nonetheless, I wish you all the luck in the world.

  12. Omg maybe this is why I cant bring myself to write even though it's been 4 years since I submitted my thesis

  13. I've always loved writing. I would do it even if I didn't get paid, but it is also a business, and so making things profitable is also a consideration. I don't feel these two are contradictory, though (not just that they are both valid. You can feel both). Trying to shape things into guidelines while loving writing is 100% possible (I just had to rip down to the studs for some parts of a book to touch on everything my editor wanted tweaked. Figuring how to build it back up was nearly as fun as originally writing it, to me. It's all a puzzle. Loving the process has nothing to do with doing it all for yourself.

  14. Listen to this poem by Charles Bukowski (if it wud be of any help), He was a writer who wasn't recognized for his work till his 50s and had a pretty rough life...he kept writing for the sake of it even tho he wasn't earning any money thru it, he enjoyed the freedom he got while writing and that's what kept him going...Motivation is temporary, devotion is what keeps people going!

  15. There are studies that show when people do what they enjoy for a reward they get less enjoyment out if it, a lot of that comes from they are now aiming for the reward, not to do the activity they enjoy. I think if you work on your mind set, "I GET to write," vs "I MUST write," you do enjoy the activity more. I think there's great validity behind reminding yourself how much you enjoy writing, how grateful you are you get to write; it helps for the activity to be more enjoyable even when it's hard. An activity can be enjoyable AND hard, and I think people forget that sometimes.

  16. The difference between the amateur writer and the professional writer is that the amateur looks for ways to make themselves enjoy writing, while the professional doesn't enjoy it or hate it. They just need to do it, like breathing, eating and shitting.

  17. "...you can make yourself associate the dopamine release(the feel good and motivation hormone) to the task itself, associating pleasure to the friction, the hard work."

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